One Night Stand - pre-marital relations, requires a serious attention of the society. Khushboo, though acquitted in all the charges by the court, had given her statement as a very irresponsible lady. I think the court has overstepped in its judgement without caring for the welfare of the society in which we are living. If Khusboo can be acquitted for her remarks on premarital sex and live in relationships, as her personal opinion, that does not mean that every bonafide citizen should be guaranteed of such rights.
It is absolutely shameful and disgusting to even think of such practice in India. No doubt, every person has his own philosophy but he should not express anything in public without caring for its impact on the society in which we are living. So the freedom of expression needs to be redefined so that with this support, he may not inflict damages to the social fabrics and values of society and life.
Pre-marital sex and live in relationship is not at all appreciable from social point of view as there are serious consequences of dispute arising out of such relations in two families and chances of transmission of serious diseases like AIDS. The risks of participating in one-night stands are similar to the risks of having any other kind of sex.
Marriage is a very sacred relation and the modern the society should not take the shelter of what has been illustrated in Mahabharta on the issue of premarital sex and sex after marriage with another man was a fact. The wrongs committed in the past should not be repeated in the present. I don’t think any person that on knowing about the girl to whom he is going to marry is not a virgin, will marry.
What we need is to groom our youngsters to know that is right and wrong which ultimately our responsibility and good thing always prevail and in future when some one gives a statement in the public, s/he must think twice on humanitarian grounds so that it may not affect the people irrespective of caste, religion or gender in the society.
While I do not encourage premarital sex I think it is a personal decision to be made by both the people involved. Make sure this is not done due to pressure or to keep someone like you.
ReplyDeleteHere the young ones grow up in the society where television, movies (even Indian Movies) Music are full of sexual exposure. Sexual explicit magazine, pornographic movies are freely available to the youth. And the internet has opened the door to pornographic material to virtually everyone. Regardless of the admonition against opposite sex, Asian youth is caught in dilemma as to what is right and what is wrong early on (starting from 12-14). Of course they quickly realize how futile it would be to discuss such a delicate issue with the parents. So for most of them best way out is to live double life. In front of parents they sing are virtuous traditional children. On the other hand in real life they are driven by the need and desire (after all hormones and biology is just as strong). This leads to their sexual encounter and since no one is supposed to know about it, the dilemma about different aspect of sex is never discussed with other mature people.
Studies have shown that when sex is openly discussed (without emotional melodrama) the incidence of teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, emotionally and physically abusive sex and even the premarital sex goes down and not up!
My vision
I think if we do not want our kids to go the Dutch way the solution is simple. We need to have an open mind and willing to entertain the possibility that many of our wonderful youth may be sexually active before marriage
Once we take the taboo away there is a room for open discussion where we might be actually help our kids engaged in destructive sex. In return, we as a society have to accept that, if two people truly love each other physical intimacy is a natural manifestation of love and how far they go is up to the two people involved. Sex is not a bad thing.
Hello. Good write up. Mana
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